Guess what? It’s actually possible have fun and look fabulous, even while doing something difficult like changing our relationship to food and to ourselves.
In my last post, I talked about giving ourselves unconditional permission to look good at any size, on any day. When we realize that we don’t need to lose weight to live the life we want to be living, we stop obsessing over calories, and start feeling better. That’s when the weight comes off more easily. Why? Because we lose weight when we are happier and feeling good.
If you think losing weight will make you happy, think again. It may, for a brief period of time. Ultimately, feeling happy is actually what will help you lose weight!
One way to feel happier is to feel comfortable in your clothes and with your style. That brings me to….
Look Good, Feel Good Tip #2: Know what you feel good in.
This will be different for each person. Some women feel their best in a pencil skirt and heels. Some feel their best in jeans and stilettos (that’s me!). Some love to take it casual with tennis shoes and a baseball cap. There’s room for everyone here!
So, take a moment to consider the following:
- Does putting on makeup make a difference in how pretty you feel?
- If so, what are your make-up “go-tos?” (Do you love eye shadow, blush, foundation, mascara, or lip stick? Or, do you love all of it?
- On a busy day when you have limited time, will styling your hair or putting on makeup help you feel prettiest?
- Which hair styles do you most prefer?
- Do you feel better wearing certain colors over others?
- Which cuts and fabrics do you feel most confident wearing?
- Which outfits are your favorite?
- Do you have jewelry or accessories that you are particularly fond of?
- Does your sense of beauty remain constant regardless of what you wear or look like
There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. The fun part about fashion is it’s an easy way to express your own personality and values. Are you professional or casual? Structured or romantic? Do you prefer bright hues, jewel tones, or neutrals? V-necks or button-downs? Flared jeans or skinnies?
If you’re struggling to identify your own “style personality,” take a walk into your wardrobe and find the five or ten pieces of clothing that you like most. These can be shirts, dresses, pants, shoes, jewelry, bags, whatever! Spread the clothes over your bed. Take a step back and analyze to see if there are any repeating themes. Do you favor certain styles, colors, or cuts over others?
Another way to identify your style personality is to hop online and do some guilt-free, online “window shopping.” Put the things that you like most in your bag, regardless of price! You’re not going to buy these items; you’re simply putting together an idea of what styles you like most.
Pinterest is ideal for this activity as well. If you’re trying to regain a sense of what you like to wear, create a Pinterest board! Start pinning looks or outfits that you like that you like. Over time, you’ll have a greater understanding of not only what you like and feel good in!I wanted to share this quote about the difference between beauty and attractiveness from Dr. Vivian Diller, a psychologist who specializes in the psychology of healthy aging and beauty.
“Beauty is a rigid, static physical image. Attractiveness is a fluid, variable psychological experience, one that moves from the inside, out and back again. Beauty can be inherited, Photoshopped or surgically attained. Attractiveness develops, evolves over time and can be ageless.”
Again, the moment we realize that we don’t need to lose weight to live the life we want to be living, we stop obsessing over calories. We stop dieting, and start living.
I’d love to see what you come up with! Send me your Pinterest boards or post pictures of your favorite outfits on the community page.
And in the meantime, check out this makeup tutorial from my favorite 2-year-old YouTube sensation, Mila.
I’ll be back next week for another feel good tip!