Do you strive to be flawless, set extremely high standards for yourself, and often criticize yourself? If the answer is yes, maybe you’re a perfectionist. Perfectionism is that constant drive to be flawless and avoid failure at all costs. It creates impossibly high standards which leads to harsh self-criticism when we inevitably fall short (as all humans do). For those …
This Halloween, focus on treats that go beyond the candy bowl. Let’s dive into 9 guilt-free ways to truly enjoy the season.
I’m puppy-sitting a very adorable dog named Rosey (and yes, that’s the way her name is spelled – some people have told me that it’s spelled wrong but this is the way her “people” spell her name). A rose by any other name, right? Well, Rosey can teach all of us about self-acceptance. How? For one thing, Rosey does …
Do you want to learn how to accept yourself and feel better? Then I have another question for you: When you hear, “accept yourself” what “self” do you think of first? The one in the mirror? Because there is so much more to you than meets the eye. Recently I found some of my old journals from high school (so …
Today I’m going to offer an explanation of why you use food for comfort, and also tell you what you need to do to change. Why food? I hear this question a lot. People ask all the time, why can’t they don’t use something else for comfort? They wish they were addicted to exercise (not that I see food as …
Can you relate to Willow? She’s in her late 20s, very personable, smart, creative – just a truly nice person, and she has struggled with her weight since high school. People always tell her she has “such a pretty face” and if she just lost weight, she’d be fighting off the guys. Her grandmother said, “If you lost weight, men …
Lowering your expectations can help you lose weight. How? Consider the example of Robert. He really wanted to go to grad school, but the idea of the interview process filled him with anxiety. Robert found statistics surveys showing a bias against overweight people, and was convinced that his weight prevented him from being accepted into a program. He kept saying …
Do you think you’ll be happier when you lose weight? Today I’m going to tell you why happiness can sabotage your diet. Yes, happiness. A few years ago, a Special K commercial asked viewers, “What will you gain when you lose?” Now, let me be clear: I fundamentally oppose the idea that you can gain happiness by losing weight, because …
Today I’m going to talk about how fear of failure can keep you stuck on a never-ending cycle of dieting. When you challenge and work through this conflict about failure, you can’t fail to lose. Let’s talk about failure. Imagine two people – let’s call them Darren and Darcy, who both put in a job application at some company, and …
Do you ever wish you could just be done with feelings? Just get rid of them? How to get rid of feelings for someone? Today I’m going to tell you exactly how to do that. The other day I was at a party and someone asked, “What’s the point of expressing these feelings? It’s not going to change anything.” She …
